A red flag is a pattern that may point to disrespect, pressure, control, dishonesty, or unsafe behavior. A green flag is a pattern that points to respect, consistency, accountability, and emotional safety.
Common Red Flags
- They pressure you to move faster than you are comfortable with.
- They punish you with silence, threats, guilt, or jealousy games.
- They try to isolate you from friends, family, or support systems.
- They avoid accountability and make every issue your fault.
Common Green Flags
- They respect your boundaries even when disappointed.
- They communicate clearly instead of making you guess.
- They apologize with changed behavior, not only words.
- They make space for your friends, goals, and independence.
What To Do Next
Look for patterns, not one isolated moment. Ask direct questions, notice whether the answer matches future behavior, and prioritize your safety if the situation feels controlling or threatening.